A Savior

And there were in the same country shepherds, abiding in the field, keeping watch over their flock by night. And, lo, the angel of the Lord came upon them, and the glory of the Lord shone round about them! And they were sore afraid. And the angel said unto them, “Fear not! For, behold, I bring you tidings o great joy, which shall be to all my people. For unto you is born this day in the city of David a Savior, which is Christ, the Lord. And this shall be a sign unto you: Ye shall find the babe wrapped in swaddling clothes, lying in a manger.” And suddenly, there was with the angel a multitude of the Heavenly Host praising God, and saying, “Glory to God in the Highest, and on Earth peace, and good will toward men.”  Luke 2:4-14

When it’s finally silent. When all the hustle and bustle has calmed down. When I stop to think instead of react to the world around me I am reminded of what I’ve always known.  The true meaning. The true reason I was put on this earth. The true reason I do what I do each day.  A Savior.

It saddens me when I know where I once was in my walk and where I’ve been the last couple of years but none the less I am able to sit here in awe of where I truly am and I know that’s not because of me. Not because of the amazing people in my life. Not because of what I deserve – thank goodness. Because a God that is so much greater than me was born this day in a manager. A God that has so much more love than I can ever understand loves me. A God that has a heart for me and all of my wickedness will never let me go. It is so easy to put the weight of the world on your own shoulders. To look at your life and what you’ve done; or haven’t done, and think it’s not enough.  Today a bright shining star is sending a message to each and every one of us that that is not correct.

A thrill of hope the weary world rejoices
For yonder breaks a new glorious morn
Fall on your knees
O hear the angels’ voices
O night divine
O night when Christ was born
O night divine o night
O night divine

 

 

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When it’s hard to be thankful

We are very fortunate to live in a nation that encourages us to take a day to truly think about what we have and be thankful for it. What happens when being thankful is hard to do? What if we’re in a season of life that makes us not feel thankful but instead feel pain? Or anger? Bitterness? Thanksgiving is a day set aside for us to remember how blessed we are but sometimes it’s hard to do.  The holidays are not easy for everyone. What if this last year was especially hard? Are you thinking about the person that’s not at the table with you this year? Are you grateful someone’s not at the table with you but resentful because of how that loss came about?

God commands us to give thanks in everything.  Give thanks for the things he has lavished upon you and give thanks for the pains that he has brought you through.  When we are thankful for the pain as well as the joy we will be blessed.  It doesn’t mean it’s easy to do… It’s necessary. Sometimes, even though we know we should be, we’re not.  How do we cultivate a heart of gratitude when it seems impossible?

Don’t downplay the season that you’re in. Don’t try to block out the things you’re dealing with. You don’t have to fake it.  Nothing says you can’t be honest about what is truly in your heart buy try to find something positive as well. Know that whatever the season you’re in will pass. There’s always something to be thankful for.

 

Monday Morning Motivation

I know that for many of us, Monday Mornings are a rough start to the week… but they keep on coming! That’s why I came up with the Monday Morning Motivation so that I am assured to start the week off in the right frame of mind. So grab your favorite cup of coffee and a comfy seat and join me for the Monday Morning motivator…

Well I realize that yet again I’m too late to call it the Monday “MORNING” Motivator but none the less it’s time to think about what’s been weighing on my mind a lot lately. LOVE. I know what you’re thinking… UGH. 😝💩💔 Nope none of that sappy stuff because it’s a word that I struggle with. It seems that we can love coffee, exercise wine, our kids, our spouse, our dog… You name it we love it.  Really?! That’s a problem to me.  I feel like the “L” word is thrown around so freely. So easily. Does it really mean anything? Does it have the incredible impact that it’s intended to?

 

Maybe it’s me. Maybe I’ve been through enough to see it used the wrong way. I just want to refocus on what the word is intended to mean and use it that way. I love my children and I would give my life for them but I sure wouldn’t give it for a cup of coffee or a glass of wine.  I suggest that we make sure that our words mean what we want them to mean when they come out of our mouths. I suggest that we think before we speak. I suggest that when we love we feel as if our heart is going to pound right out of our chest.  Love yourself enough to be real. Be honest. Be happy.

The Power of ‘Hygge’

I have just recently learned of a Norwegian way of life called Hygge.  It is a way of life. A leisurely lifestyle. A way of peace and contentment.

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It is safe to say that it has been a long time since I have felt Hygge as a norm in my life.  For a variety of reasons from the standard hustle and bustle of life to the self induced stresses that I pile onto my life.  I’ve been blessed to have friends that remind me constantly of the need to slow down and remember the good that each day has.  To remind me that the go, go, go and being antsy isn’t necessary.  I have lost my ability to be still. Lost my ability to just relax. I couldn’t get my mind to quiet and chill. I have become so used to doing, working, worrying, planning… I couldn’t just relax and be content.

First step is to embrace Hygge at it’s most basic place. Savory the present moment. I began that this weekend. I began by enjoying my beautiful friendships. I didn’t worry about my house being clean, about what food I would serve or if we’d run out of things to laugh about. I was just happy to have them here. Some of my favorite things. I continued to concentrate on Hygge today as the rain fell and storms brewed outside because I was able to sit with my coffee and binge watch the Hallmark channel.

I read a post that talked about 30 Days of Hygge in November. What a perfect time to regroup, recoup, and refocus. What a great time to be grateful for the simply everyday joys in life.

  • read a favorite book
  • bake some fall favorites and share them with a friend
  • cozy up by the fireplace with a blanket and write
  • buy fresh flowers and enjoy the smells of fall
  • buy a new outfit just because it makes me feel good
  • treat myself to coffee and a scone in the middle of the week
  • invite the girls over for a game night
  • spend an entire day just relaxing with no chores or agendas
  • fix my hair and makeup in a special way just for myself
  • tell a friend how special they are for no other reason but making sure that they know
  • Say “I love you” to someone who already knows it
  • take a long hot bath with a new relaxing bubble bath and oil
  • paint a new sign and hang it in my house
  • make personalized and handmade gifts for the people I love
  • give my time to someone that needs it and didn’t ask

There are so many ways to focus on the simple and everyday joys that life brings us.  I am going to work on creating Hygge in my life today.

 

 

Monday Morning Motivation

                                                       
I know that for many of us, Monday Mornings are a rough start to the week… but they keep on coming! That’s why I came up with the Monday Morning Motivation so that I am assured to start the week off in the right frame of mind. So grab your favorite cup of coffee and a comfy seat and join me for the Monday Morning motivator…

FALL BREAK! Woohoo! On this crisp Monday morning I am able to sit on my couch with my coffee and watch shows in my DVR that I’ve neglected for weeks… RELAXATION. Yep that’s the word of motivation today. RELXATION. With all that we have going on in our lives- work, families, friends it’s so easy to neglect ourselves. I am the Queen of this. I try to give 110% to my job, my sons and my friends and I am the last one to get any of me.

Why is is that someone else has to remind me that if I’m not at my best I can’t give anyone else my best?! Silly girl! This last couple of days I’ve really worked hard at taking a breath…taking time for me…taking myself seriously! 

I’m motivated to put the pieces of my puzzle back together in a different way than they were before and in order to do that I have to change the way I think… Relax, take each day one at a time. Stress Less, Love More, and breath.

Monday Morning Motivation

 

I know that for many of us, Monday Mornings are a rough start to the week… but they keep on coming! That’s why I came up with the Monday Morning Motivation so that I am assured to start the week off in the right frame of mind. So grab your favorite cup of coffee and a comfy seat and join me for the Monday Morning motivator…

Have you ever felt like you’re stuck in a rut? Eating at the same restaurants, watching the same shows, attracted to the same guys… just always doing the same thing?! It’s comfortable. It’s familiar. This weekend I found myself thinking that this is me. I’m stuck in many areas of my life. It’s not necessarily a bad thing to like the same foots you’ve always liked or the same restaurants but sometimes you become stuck in the same bad habits just because it’s familiar. Sometimes the thought of venturing out and trying something different is too scary… so we don’t.

I think this is where I am in regards to many relationships in my life. I gravitate to the same kind of people and some of those familiar kinds of people simply aren’t healthy. For example, I don’t run from those Negative Nellie’s or those Controlling men because I’ve had them as family members so I understand them. I don’t like them but I know how to deal with them.  I’ve decided I have to make a change.  I’m stronger than I ever realized and I’m more than capable of dealing with change.  I will not break just because I’m stepping out of my comfort zone and DARN IT, I deserve better.  Today I am going to begin the process of digging myself out of the mudd and muck. I’m going to look for the silver lining behind the dark clouds and I’m going to demand that I be treated like the strong and capable woman that I know is deep inside of me.

The fire that gave me the strength to get out of a painful and destructive marriage needs to burn inside me to demand better of others and of myself.  Today I’m digging out and I’m going to discover what the world is like outside of my comfort zone.

 

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Monday Morning Motivation

 

 

I know that for many of us, Monday Mornings are a rough start to the week… but they keep on coming! That’s why I came up with the Monday Morning Motivation so that I am assured to start the week off in the right frame of mind. So grab your favorite cup of coffee and a comfy seat and join me for the Monday Morning motivator…

Well it seems that maybe I need to change my title to Monday Midday Motivation. Well if we’re being honest even midday is a stretch… it’s still Monday and we’re not at midnight just yet! As you can tell by the lack of posts recently, I am in need of some motivation myself. Strike that. I’m motivated but I’m having a hard time climbing this mountain… new house, new job, kid in college. Just a full plate…

Which brings me to my topic for today. Do you ever feel as if you’re just not enough? Not skinny enough. Not tall enough. Not funny enough. Not creative enough. Not pretty enough. Not a good enough cook, mom, wife, friend, employee. Just not good enough. PERIOD.

I have been known to throw myself a pity party a time or two. I know we all do it even though we know better.  If we’re honest we all have found ourselves looking around the grocery store at the woman that is dressed to the nines with her hair and makeup perfectly in place and felt totally embarrassed to be seen anywhere near her. Or we’re terrified to push our cart past the mom whose toddler is sitting quietly in their cart eating a banana because ours is standing in the back basket with his pajamas still on at 3pm, hair looking like a rat’s nest with a sucker sticking out of his dirty little mouth. Even then YOU’RE GOOD ENOUGH. It’s those days when you feel that dark cloud looming over you threatening to fill your head with poisonous thoughts of inadequacy that you need to step back, take a deep breath and tell yourself HELL NO!

Today I’m good enough to take on the world. Today I look pretty damn good. I made the best poptart I could this morning and that little boy  at my kitchen table loved it-even on the napkin that I called a plate! I gave birth to two boys that call me mom even when I don’t appear to know what I’m doing and they seem to be fairly normal.

Our society can be very hard on women and there’s a pretty distinct picture of what’s attractive and what’s “supposed” to be. In the end it’s our fault if we don’t feel like we’re enough though. We have to see worth in ourselves or no one else will. You have to know you’re enough. You have to lift yourself up. Only you can let someone make you feel inferior. Even if it means you’re doing it to yourself. Today tell yourself you’re enough. You’re more than enough.