So as the rain came down today I sat and watched my 13 year old LIVE on video games and I thought to myself… “Wow, way to go you’re Mom of the Year in his eyes but what a bad mom!” Then I realized that’s not it at all… I’m a mom doing the best I can without instructions and sometimes without the brains needed to even make a decision because of all that I am juggling in my life in general.
My house is almost never clean. Atleast not eat on the floor clean. I have friends (with young kids) whose houses are spotless! I mean show worthy. Are they better moms than me? Nope. Am I a better mom than them because I don’t focus on that instead of my children? Nope.
I don’t have the ability to take my kids on lavish vacations to far away lands but they have friends that have been to every continent. Are their parents giving them a better life? Nope.
I try to watch my language in front of my boys but they’ve definitely heard me swear even though my girlfriend is good about NEVER cursing in front of her teenager. Does that make her a better mom than m? Hell no!
I’m a yeller and have raised my voice too many times while my closest girlfriend rationally and quietly speaks to her daughter without ever dreaming of such a thing. Is she a better mom than me? Absolutely not.
I learned that my youngest does not do well when he’s eaten foods with red dye but I know beautiful women that have never even considered the dyes in their foods. Does that mean they care any less about their children or that I am wiser in any way ? Oh my goodness NO!
I was raised by a mother that got divorced when I was 6 years old and now my boys are experiencing the same heartbreak in their lives. My best friend has been married 22 years and adores her husband Does that make her a better example for her daughter than I am for my boys? Nope.
I drink a beer or glass of wine (sometimes a few) in front of my boys. I’m still a good mom. I have friends that never drink in front of the their children. They are good moms also
Are working moms better than stay at home moms? Nope
Are married moms better than single moms? Nope
Can you be a good mom if you don’t schedule your entire summer with educational activities? Yep
Can you be a good mom if you let the tv babysit your kids from time to time? Even video games? Yep
I’m a Christian but I have friends who practice no faith, are Muslim and are Jewish but they are all amazing moms trying to raise their children to know right from from and love someone bigger than themselves.
The point here is that some days we feel like we’re doing a great job at this crazy thing called parenting and other delays we are not even in the same book. That doesn’t make us a failure. It’s time we give one another some slack. More importantly it’s time we give ourselves some slack. The pressure to be the “best” mom ever known is intense. It’s huge and it’s CRAZY. Love your children. Give them everything that you can give and know the difference between giving them what they need and what they desperately want. Know that it’s not stuff that makes them better. It’s not who you are that makes them better. It’s not where they go, what they have or even who they have. It’s being loved that matters Love your children. Love yourself. Love one another.